We have compiled a list of resources that we find ourselves referring back to, recommending to friends & clients, or greatly impacted us. 

We are happy to share this ever-growing list with you.

Attached The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Come as You Are by Emily The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life 
Come Together The Science of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski 
Mating in Captivity Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel 
Us Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrance Real 
Sex Talks The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa Marin
Fair Play A Game Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life To Live) by Eve Rodsky 
The Great Sex Rescue The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended by Sheila Wray Gregoire
How We Love Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan Yerkovich and Kay Yerkovich
The 5 Love Languages The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy by Marion F. Solomon Ph.D. and Stan Tatkin
Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and Dr. John Gottman
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson

The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships - Alain de Botton, On Being Podcast #930

No Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Tina Payne Bryson PhD and Daniel J. Siegel MD
Raising Good Humans A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive by Hunter Clarke-Fields MSAE, Carla Naumburg PhD, et al.
And Baby Makes Three by Dr. John M. Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman
Raising Multiracial Children Tools for Nurturing Identity in a Radicalized World by Farzana Nayani, Dr. Paul Spickard 
Raising Your Spirited Child A Guide for Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Persistent and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Parent on Purpose A Courageous Approach to Raising Children in a Complicated World by Amy Carney
Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
The Whole Brained Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by: Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell


Mothers, Daughters and Body Image Learning To Love Ourselves by Hillary McBride
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel M.D.
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood Paperback by Lisa Damour Ph.D.
How to Talk so Teens will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber
The Teen Girl's Survival Guide: Ten Tips for Making Friends, Avoiding Drama, and Coping by Lucie Hemmen PhD

May You Love and Be Loved: Wishes for Your Life (available May 7 2024) by Cleo Wade
What the Road Said by Cleo Wade and Lucie de Moyencourt
Big by Vashti Harrison
My Big Bad Monster By A.N. Kang
What to do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Child's Guide to Overcoming OCD by Dawn Huebner
Be a Bridge by Irene Latham, Charles Waters
A Smart Girl's Guide: Worry: How to Feel Less Stressed and Have More Fun by Nancy Holyoke and Judy Woodburn
What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
The Confidence Code for Girls Taking Risks, Messing Up, Becoming Your Amazingly Imperfect, Totally Powerful Self by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
What to do When your Temper Flares: A kids guide to overcoming problems with anger. By Dawn Huebner

Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary L. McBride
The Myth of Normal Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté MD and Daniel Maté
What my Bones Know A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo
No Bad Parts Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz PhD and forward by Alanis Morissette
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. van der Kolk
What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry 

My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
How To Be An Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi
Raising White Kids Bringing Up Children in A Racially Unjust America by Jennifer Harvey
I’m Still Here Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown
Permission to Be Black by A.D. "Lumkile" Thomas


What Happened to Make You Anxious?: How to Uncover the Little "t" Traumas that Drive Your Anxiety, Worry, and Fear by: Jaime Castillo ​
Unwinding Anxiety New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal by Judson Brewer
The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control A Path to Peace and Power by Kathreine Morgan Schafler 
Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
The Next Right Thing A Simple, Soulful Practice for Making Life Decisionsby Emily Freeman

The Smell of Rain on Dust: Grief and Praise  by: Martín, Prechtel
The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
Survivor Tree by Marcie Colleen
The Grief Recovery Handbook The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce & Other Losses Including Health, Career & Faith by John W James and Russell Friedman
The Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss by Russell Friedman, Cole James, John W James
Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert , Chuck DeKlyen , and Taylor Bills

The Realm of Hungry Ghosts Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté MD forward by Peter A. Levine
Kitchen Confidential Adventures in the Culinary Underbelly by Anthony Bourdain
Drinking: A Love Story by: Caroline Knapp

Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon
Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison
Intuitive Eating by RDN Evelyn Tribole and RDN Elyse Resch
Decolonizing Wellness A QTBIPOC-Centered Guide to Escape the Diet Trap, Heal Your Self Image and Achieve Body Liberation by Dalia Kinsey
Life without ED How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too by Jenni Schaefer
Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary L. McBride PhD 
Mothers, Daughters and Body Image Learning To Love Ourselves by Hillary McBride

Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist by Dr Ramani Durvasula
Getting Past Your Past Take Control of Your Life with Self Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy by Francine Shapiro

Delivered From Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder by Edward M. Hallowell M.D and John J Ratey
Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder by Gabor Maté MD
ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction--from Childhood through Adulthood by Edward M Hallowell MD and John J Ratey
The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps by Melissa Orlov and Edward M. Hallowell

Freedom From Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder A Personalized Recovery Program for Living with Uncertainty by Jonathan Grayson PhD

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells by Randi Kreger
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist How to End the Drama and Get on with Life by Margalis Fjelstad

The Book of Pride: LGBTQ Heroes Who Changed the World LGBTQ Heroes Who Changed the World by Mason Funk

The Trevor Project: National organization with LGBTQ+ resources for teens and young adults (website learning resources for parents as well)
Parenting Rainbow Kids (website resource for parents wanting to understand their LGTBQ kids)

Set Boundaries, Find Peace A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Drama Free by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Radical Compassion Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN by Tara Branch
Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others By Laura van Dernoot Lipsky and Connie Burk 
Mean Baby A Memoir of Growing Up by Selma Blair
Inside Out by Demi Moore
Getting to Zero: How To Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a Wold that Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson 

Relatable with Thrive Therapy

The Emotional Intelligent Leader by Daniel Goleman
How to Know a Person by David Brooks
The Infinite Game by Simon Sinek
How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett
Flourish by Martin Seligman
Flow by Mihaly Scikszentmihalyi
Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

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Books, websites, & Podcasts

(organized by topic)

Partner relationships

parenting - young children

parenting - teens



racial identity & anti-racism


anxiety & stress



eating disorders




personality disorders




self care &
meditation items

emotional intelligence - EQ

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